So here goes: Your quality and purpose of life is not determined by whether or not you date or get married.
Always pursue God and health (spiritual, emotional, and physical) and you will be fine.
But before anyone can get married they have to go through the process of getting to know a person and pursuing love for them (at least if you practice the Western tradition of pursuing marriage).
It’s also hard, excruciating, joyful, hurtful, and incredibly fulfilling — at least this is what married people tell me, and from watching them, I believe it.
I do not intend to defend a certain set of rules, or refute any.
Neither will I pretend like I have the best advice, since I am not even married.
Overthinking the long-term possibilities can cool things off before they even have a chance to get started.First dates seem to fall somewhere between the excitement of a new possibility and the terror of a new possibility. Finding Perspective One of the things that has helped me redeem these early dates is a little perspective.First dates are not the time to be thinking about the genetic advantages our future children might enjoy, but – let’s be honest – our minds can easily drift that direction.The problem is, you cannot tell the difference at first.If we caution our teenagers, children, and young women to stay away from strangers they meet on line, does it then make sense to turn around and encourage them to do just that—meet strangers online? I have read the news stories of girls going missing after meeting up with men they met online.According to Match.com, 1 in 5 relationships begin online. It could be your worst nightmare or a dream come true.